In an LFG random I used to check to see what server they were from. I used to care.
If they were from a guild from my own server, or from one I knew from back on my old server – I’d probably be a little friendlier, ask after an Gm or someone I knew.. hey does ” such and such still play?”
I don’t notice people now, I still do the Heys! on entry and Cheers at the end, but for the most people are now only healthbars on my Vuhdoo , I care even less when I am not healing. If I am running with a tank I know – I check on his health bar to make sure the healer is looking after him. But I don’t remember who else or what class was in the party.
I have horse blinkers on so badly that we did a random, and straight after, me and the tank went into my daily grind for the nevermelting ice crystal that has never dropped for me, Rages into the void and I was getting whispers from someone on my own server talking to me about their priest, all about their gear, and they are going shadow and how they are finding the instances.
”Who be you? ” I asked. They were talking like they knew me, checking their guild name, I didn’t know anyone from their guild.
” I just grouped with you as healer fool.”
Short term memory fail.
I don’t want to be that sort of player or person. I’m not going to find my new bestie in a VH run, and I’m not being rude, but I should on a human, or a social level not consider other players as insignificant that I can’t even remember their name from 5 min ago.
I got Oculus with the new loot thingy last night, didn’t stop 2 people from leaving right away. I’m like spaming party as the new people zone in. ” Stay! Please! – We can knock this over quickly – if you don’t know what to do we can help! ” I have been leading most of the oculus’s I end up in. Organising the drakes and what not. Using my Island hopping strat on phases. ( move to the next island on the phase) . Mostly from sheer frustration and because people are less likely to leave if they think someone is in control. I lost 6 dps players the other day as they zoned in. Before the 1st trash pull. “Crap – Oculus” Such and Such has left the party.
It is such a unique instance it’s a pity it has become so hated. Yes its scary because its a little different, the chance of a drake though didn’t keep the 2 dps in the party – but maybe they didn’t read the changes. I will stick it out because I am confident I know what I am doing, trying to instill this confidence in other people when you have seconds before they decide it’s too hard and leave has been a challenge.
*edit Spelling of Oculus Fixed! ( wonder if you notice )