“Hi – are you a tank?”
“Wanna run a dungeon?”
He was level 77 Mage, ( I was 78) I said yes. I finished checking the AH on my Tank, and had been planning on Queueing anyway.
“Invite” he says, but can you wait till I finish my Bg?”
5 min later. ” You can queue now”
So we queue, and I don’t get an insta queue. Waiting on a healer. I suspect because of this..
This is my understanding on how the LFG Queues are filled. So a tank gets an insta queue, and clears Line 1, Healer gets an insta queue and clears Line 2
I come along with one DPS – and I couldn’t fit into group 1 2 or 3, so my Party, A Tank and a DPS gets shuffled all the way down the bottom so we fit into a group together.
“Sorry, It doesn’t normally take this long” I apologise after 5 min – like it’s MY fault the queue isn’t instant. More like it’s his fault. ^^ see above.
“Going for a smoke” he says. 1 min later – Queue pops. I click it. Waiting.. Waiting.. he is still not back – We miss the Queue.
1 min later I am thinking WTF am doing this for a complete stranger who is wasting my time
“You have 30 secs” in party chat.
about 40 sec pass and I leave party.
” I’m back” he says, and reinvites me to party ” I’ve just got to do something”
“Queue now, or I leave.” I tell him
He queues, and it pops in a about 2 min.
We do VH – no deaths/wipes – ” Want to do another? – I need to do more”
‘No thankyou.” I say.
I blame the posts from Klepsacovic from Troll Racials are Overpowered “Dear Blizzard, Please end our loneliness” and Adam from The noisy Rogue’s “I am a Social Leper” that got me worried that I am not friendly enough, and that I should give random people who whisper me nicely more attention, and maybe they are just trying to be nice, and friendly, and that they don’t want just to sell me gold, or hack my WOW account.
I can do reasonable requests.
Not only did he make me wait till he finished his BG. ( and complained that all Alliance are nubs) He then made me queue longer, then he goes for a smoke making us miss the queue we had already waited for, and then wants me to wait for him while he does something else.
I should have said no, but I was trying to be nice. . It could have been a wonderful experience, and I could have waxed lyrical about the benefits of running with random people.
It was about 16 min of my life wasted – for a stranger. No personal benefit. The only thing he learned about me was that this was going to be my 5th 80 – and all I learnt was that he smoked, and cared enough about his PC/whatever to not do it at the computer.
I do not feel like I have connected with the human race in any useful capacity
So what was the point?
I wonder how many people he went through looking for a willing tank. Used to happen all the time in BC -” can you heal this.. can you run this for us.. “
He didn’t ask in trade, didn’t offer gold, he just whispered random people his request hoping for a bite. He did it while in a BG too, forward planning his convenience at the cost of others.
It’s reasonable to ask someone to wait a couple of min, but you should do what you need to do first before inconveniencing people,and not make people wait for you when your the one doing your own thing. I am not at your beck and call.
People wonder why people are so un-helpful. It’s partly why I don’t respond to LF enchanters anymore. No one is bloody organised enough before they ask for people to do what they want.
So if I am feeling nice next time, and it’s gonna take a while to build my friendly bar up again. Like Taxi’s when you order them ask ”Ready now?”
IF YOU SAY NO – I shall say no too.