Zelmaru from Murloc Parliament talked about not being ‘liked’ for an unknown reason, and what you should do, if you do dislike someone in “No body likes me, everybody hates me, guess I’ll go and eat worms” , and that has given me a reason to finish this post off. Like Zelmaru I don’t expected to be liked by everyone, I P people off in real life. ( hey that should be a tshirt) but it would be nice to know Why.
This post has been sitting half finished since I server transfer quit AGAIN, and slunk back to Proudmore with the realisation that sometimes burning bridges is a good thing.
I got asked a interesting question in my re- interview for the raiding spot that confused me a little because I had to think on a concept,
“Do you know you will be playing with people you don’t like?”
I wondered at the time, and considering the grilling I got in my reinterview, and the hoops I was told I would need to jump through to prove myself, as well as the general difficulty I had in getting them to acknowledge I want to raid – should the question have been “Do you know you will be playing with people who don’t like you?”
When expressing my confusion at my supposed apparent and obvious dislike, I said, well there was only ever really one person I had issue with – and I don’t believe he is in the guild anymore anyway – but even me and him sorted that out with a long discussion on vent, so we were cool. So I’m not sure what gave you the impression I don’t like someone? ( especially since I am usually uncharacteristically quite in raid )
Was there reasons I didn’t know about that should cause me to dislike someone? – well that kind of thinking only makes you paranoid.
I did however had to think. Who I actually liked – and I realised how little I knew them. I didn’t know most of them well enough to dislike them.
If we use the analogy that Wow raiding is very much like a 2nd job, you may not ‘like’ everyone in the office – but you probably don’t know them all too well, or have an interest in doing so, but it also doesn’t necessarily affect your working or business relationship with them. They are colleagues but not a friend. A friend is a bonus – its a deeper connection then a colleague, and you make that because of time invested.
So sometimes it means working with people you have nothing personally in common with bar that you are at the same place and time to get a job done.
I am amazed sometimes at such obvious dislike and I guess snark I do see in guilds that if you can get past your personal differences and still raid with someone – and not cause public disruption or another officer tell you to quit it, well that truly is a working relationship.
Do we need like/dislike buttons against guildy names? Am I taking this concept of like or dislike too seriously – and that concept of like and dislike are now as serious pressing a button on a status update.
There are people I have disliked – however they are usually terrible examples of humanity eg the Chick that changed Peoples guild notes, and had to have daddy clean up her forum post messes. Or the guy who muted me in raid, and his lovely companion in that same raid that told the only other female to “Shut up you f’ken W*hore”
How do you treat other people? has to be one of the biggest nudge worthy items on the scale of dislike or like. Do you go out of your way to make other people’s games or lives miserable? Do you manipulate people? Spread rumours for kicks? Those kind of things shall not endear you to me.
Doesn’t matter now – I burned my bridges – wasn’t sure who would care if I did go to the effort of saying goodbye, because even with working relationships. When it’s not working. It’s not.
But I am not sure how I would go about displaying my dislike of someone. Perhaps I need to be clearer about those I do like or respect, so there is a greater variable.