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Shallow Social media

I used to have friends on Facebook,  but gradually over the years I have been deleting people. I’m down to 9.  I’ve been using it less, and liking stuff less, and not posting anything.

One of my highschool friends was one of the first people to get upset for me deleting them.

“Why?”

Because he was a lurker,  just watched. What was the point on having this silent thin thread of a connection, when I could text him  ( no one calls anymore ) and say lets catch up for a drink.

Antisocial is now cool

My two best friends have never been on Facebook.  Yet I can not see them for weeks, and one catch up can recharge me, make me happy,  feel loved and connected more than a 100 comments or likes on some random shit I said on Facebook

Facebook was like my 18th Birthday party.  Ok so no one run off with my best friends boyfriend, and there was no puking on my  pink carpet in the bedroom nor was there a keg ( unless you count that cocktail app in the early days )   . But there were  awkward interactions with relatives,  My little sister running around with her friends, Wall flowers, friends from different social circles that didn’t know each other, and sometimes didn’t get along, and a Shitbag cocktail of stuff.  ( we dubbed that the drink when we put all the left over drinks into a cocktail )

Some of the most interesting people I have met, and  communicated with recently do not actively use/have ever used Facebook.

It sounds rather unsocial of me.  How dare I not want to be tagged in a family photo  or have my entire office as a friend so that they know exactly what I am doing on my holidays/weekend/sick day. How could i not want to know the inner workings of my random acquaintances political opinions, and their general opinion of people.  or your dinner plates or see one of your 500 selfies.

But I don’t want to be connected that way,  and maybe it’s just me.  My desire to keep some of my life segmented as much as possible.

At times, it felt so shallow,   I was friends with a girl from Uni, and I followed her through her break up with her ex,  her custody issues,  finding a new love, an engagement and a wedding.   I felt like a voyeur.  Not close enough to attend the wedding,  but friendly enough to watch her life events unfold.

I couldn’t brain vomit ideas, or thoughts, or discuss my day, my interests, developing ideologies, opinions and thoughts, but then I had people getting into arguments and being patronising to each other. Or people who didn’t like someone and was like. Why are you friends with THAT person.

The ” my little boy did a poop – so proud posts’ were also TMI

I liked it for posting what ever creative project I was doing.  Like Baby Diaper cakes, and Paper flowers,  ( but then I decided I am probably better off giving them their own blog ( Which I may do later.. )  – it was more of a record, or a way to show off. Look what I did!

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And of course cute Kitty Photos.

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I concluded that most of the content worth sharing, was just too serious for that platform.  Cute kitties and  stupid jokes,  light and happy stuff, and  a diet of that kind of stuff made me feel  empty. The relationships weren’t real.  People & friends  were  strangers or I knew too much about their dinners.  Conversations where. ‘Oh I did this last weekend’  ‘yeah I saw the pictures’  I know  some of this is with the Irony  of someone with a public blog, and a twitter user, and both sometimes come with a pressure to perform or display,

Facebook was an excellent book marking system.( everything on the web has a like button now )I absolutely love the pages idea.  People were syndicating blog updates/news/articles through their Facebook, and I was able to be informed on so many more things in an efficient manner.  Look one of my fav bands has a new album out,  woot! a new book from a fav author ect….   I love this…  but then they changed they way you see your history and activity, and the algorithms so you didn’t see every post of a page you liked, and I sometimes miss stuff, and when people realised not so many people were seeing it,  they updated their pages less often ect.

I also like, and still use the group feature.  It’s a way of being connected as an interest group, yet still maintaining your individuality. My Guild, and my writers group have active Facebook groups, and people participate.

I think social media is far from dead, there are many positives,  but I think Facebook is I guess too casually intimate.

I feel like I am somewhat obligated to apologise for deleting people.  It’s not you,  it’s me,   don’t take it personal, mum no I don’t want to be your friend.  I have your number/skype,  lets catch up at the next shindig.  Some  I would have liked to stay in contact with but for various reasons,  other people ‘s relationship breakdowns,  friendship politics, and casual acquaintances , and some I wish I had become closer to, not just people who like each others random facebook posts. But thats for me to act on IRL

( I posted this here,  because I don’t really have other space set up for brain Vomiting, and internet/social media, gaming..  it’s all related…. sorta )

Facebook Groups – A better guild forum?

When joining any non super casual guild, one of the compulsory things was the requirement to sign up to the guild forums. Most application processes required you do it through their forums, and to do that you had to create an account anyway.

The Guild forums were supposed to be a place where you could talk Strat’s, discuss guild business, get to know your guildies a little better,  post boss kill screen shots, send guildies personal messages,  post availabilities,  keep track of DKP and ask for technical advice,  or write long or short resignation letters. ( yes done that).

Some guilds had strict instructions to check it regularly for announcements, or just to make sure you stayed on top of what was going on   –  eg what strat videos you were required to watch.

But over the years,  at least for me,  the excitement of guild forums waned. Discussions were between only a few people, or it was only checked to see new applications, or post when I wasn’t going to be available. There was limited engagement between the guild on forums.

On our forums I’ve been in my current guild since January and I’ve made 2 posts and spent 1 hour 8 min in total logged into the guild website ( and most of that was likely idle )

But now we have a Facebook Group.

Thanks to one guildie who seemed to have everyone on their Facebook friends list anyway, everyone was added to a closed group on Facebook. ( non public)

We have already have Boss kill shots from our progression, old screen shots with the guild, shared pictures of new Keyboard, and Mouse pics  a share your UI post – and there have been speed test shots for those who have the NBN  ( alas for those like I who aren’t even on a roll out map yet )

I can set alerts for if I want to be notified if there is a new post.  I can check it via mobile or PC easily,  don’t need a separate log in, it’s not blocked by work filters for gaming related stuff and we seem to have more engagement with each other in the group so far then I’ve seen in the forums.

Generally,  I find it to be a  more convenient way for me at least to be connected to the guild.  I don’t need to have everyone on my flist, and I get a better idea of people’s names.   ( because some of them have known each other for a while,  they get referred to by their real names rather than toon name,  and it confuses/ confused me.

However

People want different things out of social media, set their own boundaries,  you really aren’t going to interact with each of your 500  different friends.  Do you need every man and his cat ( yes I know two friends who gave their cats Facebook pages)  that you have ever spoken to on your flist?.  I have my own boundaries. No work people, and limited family. It might be silly to try to keep parts of my life separated now, but I don’t think my mother needs to supervise what I do with my friends anymore, but they are my choices,

Also  Facebook is getting annoying, suggested pages/ads/ their viewing algorithms  – some people have already gotten over social media, and  not everyone has a Facebook,  or some people are using it less. Not everyone wants to be connected in that way.

One of the issues I have, is that we weren’t asked did we want to join a group, and this more a problem with how Facebook handles groups.   Facebook only allows your friends to add you to a group,  but it’s an opt out feature   you have to leave the group. You do not have control over who adds you to a group, nor have to click accept to be added.

From an engagement point though,  I think it’s a success. Most people in guild do have a Facebook.  We aren’t all each others friends, but there is communication, there are people reading it.  ( Facebook tells you how many people from the group see it )

Facebook may not offer the same functionality for say something like tracking DKP  – It doesn’t have a forum thread ability,  nor really a wiki place where people could post links to  sites like strats, The event function is pretty useless because of the in-game Calendar.  It does less than a guild site, yet the convenience factor means more people seem engaged with it.

However,  finally,  how important is the information shared in the Facebook group, or is it just another social media connection for the sake of being social,  rather than actively providing a real service/function to the guild, and I am leaning to it really being more of a social function then a practical purpose.

We have a few people in guild that use Wow Armory App, and log in remotely to provide updates as to their whereabouts  me <— ‘Running late after singing practice’ will be there soon, change their calender acceptance to raid ,or just to stay connected when they are away for long periods.  No one has logged into Facebook yet, and posted in guild group. ‘ Can’t make it to nite’

So what function does it serve?  In conclusion,  just a place to connect our real selves with each other, and maybe this is why it seems to be working in its current capacity. A guild forum,  isn’t necessarily a place to play.  It’s structured, every thread, and section has it’s purpose, a Facebook group is unstructured  – connect rather than inform.

 

 

Real Id : let’s talk real numbers

I have 6 Real ID friends.

I feel so popular.

I’ll be honest and say only one of them is someone I know in real life as in I used to see somewhat regularly untill they moved interstate. The others are ‘internet friends.’  I have recently have spent more time in-game with all of them then I have my own mother in -RL . 

 I’m pretty confident at the least,   that my 6 aren’t axe wielding maniacs.  Me however – well they added me at their own risk – and I don’t own a axe though I do have…..  

I went all stalkerish. Yes! I am in your friends list counting your numbers, and of my 6,  the numbers of friends they had each ranged from 11 to 1  The average was about 6 friends each.  This is a very small sample,  and I am sure Blizzard would be tracking these averages  because…..

Is 6 friends really worth all the effort they put in, for this x realm / x game communication?

Blizzard  want us to connect  – stay connected – not leave one game because we can’t play with friends, and I am sure that a lot of people have a lot more than 6 friends, and it’s only been a week.  I’m also sure that some are so busy talking to their friends they are Afk in a major city  – and miss raid because they are too busy being social and are not playing the game as intended.

But 6 people – what are the averages you’re seeing?  More or less?   The people I have talked to / commented / read other posts on,  are either extremely protective of their privacy, and have one,  or none,  or are quite happy with the idea of their Wow friends being Real ID friends.  There doesn’t seem to be a middle ground.   I like the middle ground, and besides if they give you their email.  They don’t see yours.

The more I think on  it – if I can accept the friends request on Facebook of some person from my kinder garden class that I haven’t seen in decades –   Omg remember me! Lets be Facebook friends”  and you never have any further interaction with them besides maybe throwing a sheep at them. Then is a person that you have spent/spend   HOURS with .   On vent,  in group, in game,   in party, in Bg’s,   are they really so bad? 

I’m not advocating that you pick up random people in pugs – “omg you look so hot.  Add me”    Or add your entire guild. But We think we know people – but often even the closest and dearest people to our hearts, in our lives surprise us sometimes.

You can delete people as friends.  If your friendship circle changes,  it’s ok to remove them.   Are you in contact with ALL the people you have called friend throughout your life? Ever removed a friend off facebook?  You have the same choice with Real ID.

 I have a couple more real life peoples out there I could add,  but they haven’t asked,  I haven’t asked and we really don’t need to with 6 other ways of communicating.

Oh and the last thing I will say about this real ID business.  Is you look REALLY silly running round Dalaran with a <busy> next to their names.

Social Media – Bloggers and Blizzard

Theres a recent Mashable article ” How to Target Social Media Influencers to Boost traffic and sales”   Basically  – find out  who your 1%  are – What they like to share  –  where they hang out –  what motivates them – and make them famous.     The article says

On average, approximately 1% of a site’s audience generates 20% of all its traffic through sharing of the brand’s content or site links with others. And these “influencers” drive an even higher share of conversion. These very important Internet users can directly influence 30% or more of overall end actions on brand websites by recommending the brand’s site, products or promotions to friends.

Now this is  relevent because Larisa asks “Has Blizzard put the Wow blogging community on Ignore”  and she has noticed that community sites,  including bloggers are severely underrepresented in Blizzards Fan site  program. Two of the 4 reasons Blizzard gave  as to why not  are  “Limited Interest they hold to the community, and the big amount of them”  This makes sence when you look at a social media marketing model.

Remember that Map of the World of Warcraft online communities Map by Tim Howgego this was done back in 2008 – so it may have changed by now – “The South West of the Map is dominated by the ‘Blog-o-sphere” but only one blog  Wow Insider ( now wow.com)  is named

If you look at that  Community Map,  it really puts into perspective who else is out there.  Blogging about WOW is only one way Wow players are expressing their love of a game.  We are still little fish, in a big ocean.

Larisa points out that some bloggers have gotten a nod from Blizzard, but those who have,  BRK, Resto4life  and I will  even add  Breanni, from Warcraftpets   a fan site – maybe they are our 1%   – Blizzard have immortalised these bloggers / players  –  created legends  given connection to the rest of us and hope  that one day – maybe Blizzard will notice us – and name a gun after us.   ( The Pugnacious Collar is not mine – pure co-incidence – as if they would give me a non Spell power neck. )

They don’t need to give more bloggers  love.  We will still love them regardless, and the messages / fame /  that they do give to the 1% will be enough – because  that  social media market model theories that by reaching that 1% you are reaching and influencing 30%  – you don’t need to acknowledge even the top 10% to get your message across.


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