Pugnacious: inclined to quarrel or fight readily; quarrelsome; belligerent; combative. Dictonary.com
When I found myself in a Vent over this weekend where a long diatribe of the conversation were negative remarks towards women. Not just one little comment, but they were egging each other on, each line more offensive then the other. I could have sat there like a good little girl and taken it. Not bitten, not reacted, not defended myself, or reminded them that there were ladies in the channel and to rein the conversation in. I could have left the vent if I found it so offensive. Did I stay silent? No way.
I turned an insult back on them, and I felt their hackles raised over the airways. “So its ok for you to have a go at girls, but you can’t take it if it’s directed to boys?” I asked – extremely outnumbered.
One guys excuse for their behaviour was that it was ‘normal’ – I had asked where all the gentlemen were because they certainly were not in this channel.
I don’t think I was out of line – for me not to remind them that they were being inappropriate would have meant that I was approving of their behaviour, and I think that people can need reality checks – no one knows that they are doing something wrong unless they get told.
Did I go on a female lib rant? No. I didn’t need to, I just needed to remind them that they were going to far. Did it work?. I think so, they didn’t say anything further along that line as least while I was in the channel.
I got a pst from what I assume was the only other girl in the channel glad that I had stuck up for myself – and I’d do it again, because if that is what it takes to make it a more pleasant environment for me to play in, then I am going to bite. It doesn’t have to be an in your face “respect my authority” rant, but I do believe that standing up when things are not right, can be as important as doing what is right.